“We are stronger than we think” – Nayana Nair

“We are stronger than we think.”
I always avoid saying such nonsense.
I have always hated words
that have no meaning ,
no real sympathy,
words that almost sound like:
“shut up! stop crying! we have had enough.
don’t make the atmosphere so depressing.
we can’t help it.
you can’t either.
why bring up such topics.”
I never wanted to sound like that to anyone.
I don’t want to be one of those who
consider consoling someone
equal to convincing them
that what they considered precious,
what they considered life shattering
was nothing,
that what the grieving cares for is nothing.

But then, what are the right words?

“We are stronger than we think.”
To spew such nonsense.
Even when I said that to her,
I wondered why I said that.
Have I been surprised
by my strength ever in my life?
Probably not.

But I remember feeling
that my happiest days have walked past me,
when I realized the futility of life, of my life,
my insignificance.
And how I somehow made it to the days
where I found something to look forward to,
where I found myself between people whom I could love.
The fact
that I could wait for such days
in spite of the misery that was once unbearable
must mean something.
To wait for something that may never arrive
must require some kind of strength.
To loose every paradise we stumble on,
to bleed every time it is lost
and to still believe in the concept of paradise
must require something more
than the strength we think we have.

21 Comments

  1. We are stronger than we think…Yes we are! And we can always become stronger and stronger each day, it’s just a decision…but in the middle of sadness and depression, probably we just need a hug, someone to just hold us without saying a single word, because each advice a person will give us, we will reject it! But it doesn’t mean this advice is wrong…and eventually we will discover that being strong is the only option we have! Life will not stop, it will move forward as we should doโ€ฆand each pain, each single tear we drop teach us how strong we are and how strong we grow everydayโ€ฆ
    Itโ€™s Beautifully written ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. I totally agree with you. Though things can go wrong and we may find ourselves surrounded with sadness. But the presence and support of people who genuinely care for our well being, can make a lot of difference.
      Really glad that you liked my work ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thank you ๐Ÿ˜€

      1. Yes this is what I said, we do need their support but sometimes without saying a word ๐Ÿ™‚ because each advice they will say while we’re extremely depressed might look as you were describing in you poem “nonsense” “I donโ€™t want to be one of those who consider consoling someone equal to convincing them”
        But of course we need their support and eventually these words of support will help us..because we know they’re true ๐Ÿ™‚
        Yes, appreciate your work, you are very talented ๐Ÿ™‚ Keep it up!

    1. Mostly people don’t notice that color change. So I am a bit surprised that you did. ๐Ÿ™‚
      Really glad that you liked my work ๐Ÿ™‚
      Thanks dear ๐Ÿ™‚

  2. I like everything about this poem, the tone, the structure, the message. We’ve both been on the giving and receiving end of words which we deem not enough or insensitive, but we continue to use them because, ultimately, all we have are words like “we are stronger than we know.” And sometimes those words are more comforting than an uncomfortable silence or a simple hug.

    1. I totally agree with you on that. Though we realize from our own experience that sometimes words are not enough, but that is maybe all we have.
      Really glad that you liked my work
      Thank you ๐Ÿ˜€ Means a lot

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