“Letters from my lover” – Nayana Nair

what is the use of loving you
if you won’t speak less and be less for the sake of my ego,
if you don’t have the proportions or face to brag about,
if you won’t sleep with me,
if you have “anxiety attacks” just when i am having fun
(it is embarrassing, grow up)
if my mom won’t like you,
if you can’t give me the kids that i want,
if a career, a dream is still on your mind,
if you still want friends when you already have me,
if you want to write the stupid poems that make me look bad,
if you won’t consider me your god,
if you continue to live for yourself.

so dear, work hard.
work hard
or you will become useless to me.
there is only so much that i can tolerate for this love of yours.


  1. Interesting and have you thought about putting in a second voice to respond to yours, a lovely way of trying to expand our thinking with the ‘second voice in our head. Lovely writing 🙂

    1. Nayana Nair says:

      Yeah, I agree with you adding a second voice and structuring the poem in a call and respond form would have been interesting.
      But essentially I wrote this poem with the intention of highlighting that many a times our relation with other person ends up being based on what they can do for us. Many a times we have certain expectations of how our life with this other person would be like and how they would be. We try so hard to push the person into conforming to our wishes and expectations. If there would have been a second voice it would either have tries to give reason, tried to explain or argue. But what I wanted to show was how as a single person, irrespective of who we are with, we end up demanding things from other person that has nothing to do with love. For example, people end up leaving the people they love because of their lack in beauty, financial stability, their relatives and their approvals. these things should have nothing to do with what we feel for the other person. But sadly we live in a world where this happens too often and is normal. I am not trying to put some kind of blame on people for being like that, but trying to highlight how absurd and cruel it is to think like that.
      And since I have titled it as if it is a letter you receive from someone, while reading I wanted the readers to feel how it would feel like to be demanded something like that, to be at the receiving end of such words.
      Really glad that you liked my work 🙂
      Thank you so much 🙂

      1. It is your poem and brilliant as it is. My second voice here would have been more on the lines of:
        what is the use of loving you
        (did he really care)
        Answering each line of the letter as you read, which is what we do in real life. We don’t wait until the end.

      2. Nayana Nair says:

        That is true. That would have added a different yet a beautiful meaning to it. That would be more real. Love how you perceived it 🙂

    1. Nayana Nair says:

      Thanks a lot 🙂
      Glad you liked it 🙂

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